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FAMILY’S MEDDLING…I’M CONFUSED!:
DEAR JARVELLE: I've been with my boyfriend for over 20 years. We have a 10 year old son. He’s been a widower for a long time (before we got together) and had a girl with his late wife. My family is upset with me and wants me to leave him because he doesn’t ask me to marry him. Furthermore, we don’t live together. I love him a lot and am so confused right now. Should I leave him or stay with him? Please advise! ----- CONFUSED from Florida USA.
Dear Confused: After 20 years, obviously you know this man. You mentioned you love him; is the love mutual? If he loves you, has he been faithful? If he’s been faithful, have you two ever spoken about marriage? Sometimes men don’t talk about marriage simply because they’re afraid (afraid of rejection, commitment, etc.) not because they don’t want to. I suggest that you raise the subject (if you never did) and see how he responds. Communication is always the best way in a relationship.
